No one cares about your life. At least not as much as you think they do.
Humans are inherently selfish. We live in our own little world that solely revolves around us. But, we often forget that everyone else is living in their own bubble too. We have a tendency to assume that we are relevant in everyone’s life- that we are more important than we actually are. (Or that people think about us nearly as much as we think about ourselves… they don’t).
And while this seems like a really depressing concept, I’m here to assure you that it is not. Actually, the fact that no one really cares about you life should be liberating.
Once we embrace that we are entirely up to ourselves, we can stop censoring our personalities to fit society’s standards and constructs of what is acceptable and “cool.”
I struggle with this idea every day. Should I post the Instagram with the filter I like, or the one that goes with my theme? Should I say hi to this person on the bus, even though we don’t really know each other? How soon should I respond to this boy’s snapchat? Do I really get a large fry from McDonald’s even though I feel like the person I’m with is judging me? (the answer to this one is always yes).
The point is: this is your life. And if you are going to live it for other people, then it really isn’t your life at all. We are most happy and comfortable around people who are relatable, honest, and genuine, rather than people who are actively trying to portray themselves a specific way. And while that seems like such an easy concept, we often fall victim to society’s pressure to act and look a certain way.
I recently came across a tweet that said “I’ve always been weird about expressing emotions to the world. I’ve always thought that I am the girl who has to have everything together, but what I’ve learned is that being relatable is what makes people feel like they are not alone.”
We are always trying to make it appear that we are living our best lives, like we are thriving in all aspects of our existence, and we shield our hurt and our vulnerability from the world. But WHY?
Our imperfections, our mistakes, and our failures are what makes us human and bonds us together. We are never too cool for failure. We are never too cool for pain. We are never too cool to be a human.
The drama queen in me often thinks of how life is literally ticking away as we lay here wasting time. We need to STOP waiting to post Instagrams until it is prime posting time. We need to STOP waiting to tell someone we love them because we are scared of what our friends are going to think. We need to STOP putting our dreams on hold because we feel we are too inadequate to fulfill them.
THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
So I, Mikaela Pavlicek, am officially declaring that being cool isn’t cool anymore.
Let’s stop living our life to impress people (because friends who care about stupid things like what sorority you are in or what color your hair are aren’t actually your friends). And let’s start doing things we genuinely enjoy doing. More importantly, let’s stop preventing ourselves from doing things because we are worried about what other people will think about us.
Start a YouTube channel! Drop out of school! Fall in love! Stop acting like you don’t give a fuck when you actually do! Our world is too exciting to not live it passionately! (or to not use exclamation points)!
If you have made it to the end of this blog post/rant/creative outburst that I’m not quite sure makes sense… know that this is me being “uncool.”
In all honesty, I have concealed my identity as a writer for so long because I feel like it is ‘uncool.’ I literally tremble when I post a blog and I cringe when I think of certain people reading it. I don’t know why.
But here’s what I do know. This is my life. And writing makes me feel alive. (And that’s all that really matters).
Until next time.